Not to be confused with the term "Freedom is slavery", I shared my own original quote in 2014 concerning why slavery is freedom. It is a conscience decision to give over control to another in order to find peace, purpose and fulfillment with one's own life.
This became very popular on social media sites like Tumblr, Facebook, Twitter and Google+. It became popular for a reason. Many identified with the concept. It spoke to them.
Religion has the same purpose and goal. So does fundamentalist, extremist and racist ideologies. They all fail miserably when not taking the needs and wants of the individual into consideration. They become a simple band aid instead of a solution. One should always search within themselves first before seeking "freedom". Knowing your purpose is innate. No matter how confused you feel about your life, you always know what you need. Sometimes, all you need is a little help in finding "clarity".
I'll share a very enlightening definition of the "new age" meaning of "slavery" (as it should pertain to this Lifestyle)...
slavery is not about suffering . .
. . slavery is about service.
slavery is not about humiliation . .
. . slavery is about humility.
slavery is not about pain . .
. . slavery is about being present.
slavery is not about being used . .
. . slavery is about being of use.
slavery is not about control . .
. . slavery is about letting go.
slavery is not about what is done to you . .
. . slavery is about what you do for others.
slavery is not about abuse . .
. . slavery is about acceptance.
slavery is not about proving anything . .
. . slavery is about being real.
slavery is not about contempt . .
. . slavery is about respect.
slavery is not about how you look . .
. . slavery is about how much you care.
slavery is not about denying yourself . .
. . slavery is about being open.
slavery is not about bondage . .
. . slavery is about freeing your spirit.
slavery is not about punishment . .
. . slavery is about discipline.
slavery is not about being unable to escape . .
. . slavery is about being committed.
slavery is not about submission . .
. . slavery is about obedience.
slavery is not about fear . .
. . slavery is about trust.
slavery is not about sex . .
. . slavery is about love.
slavery is not about pleasure . .
. . slavery is about happiness.
Slavery is freedom. And it can mean different things to different people. When I talk about "knowing your role" and "keeping it real", this is what I mean by it all.
Pursuit of the END result.
Saturday, February 28, 2015
Wednesday, February 25, 2015
Initial Trust
Initial Trust is simply providing your trust upfront until they prove otherwise unworthy of it. Of course, this is also known as giving “benefit of the doubt". In our everyday lives, something like that wouldn’t normally be wise. But, when trying to impress and show your potential, it can essentially become your resume.
Overcoming fear will be your biggest obstacle. But how do you overcome your very valid concerns? Simple. Share them with your Dom. Not so simple? Why? Answer that question and you will be able to overcome it.
Your Dom deserves full compliance.
Anything else and it would be considered topping from the bottom. Something that will turn off most Doms very quickly. You say you are submissive, then BE submissive. No one should be expecting you to turn your life over to them at the first meeting. And, if they do… definitely proceed with caution.
Just like a job interview, always put your best foot forward to give the Dom a taste of what you have to offer. FOCUS completely on the task of pleasing HIM. Nothing else matters beyond that singular goal.
The rest will work itself out.
Just remember to communicate your concerns and be honest about your intentions. There was a reason why you approached that Dom. Now, help him see your potential and that you are not a waste of his time.
Words are NEVER enough.
Overcoming fear will be your biggest obstacle. But how do you overcome your very valid concerns? Simple. Share them with your Dom. Not so simple? Why? Answer that question and you will be able to overcome it.
Your Dom deserves full compliance.
Anything else and it would be considered topping from the bottom. Something that will turn off most Doms very quickly. You say you are submissive, then BE submissive. No one should be expecting you to turn your life over to them at the first meeting. And, if they do… definitely proceed with caution.
Just like a job interview, always put your best foot forward to give the Dom a taste of what you have to offer. FOCUS completely on the task of pleasing HIM. Nothing else matters beyond that singular goal.
The rest will work itself out.
Just remember to communicate your concerns and be honest about your intentions. There was a reason why you approached that Dom. Now, help him see your potential and that you are not a waste of his time.
Words are NEVER enough.
Saturday, January 31, 2015
The History Of Lynching In America
I have always noted that Americans tend to dilute the true horror that was the African American Holocaust. Lynchings were commonplace. The average Black person lived in constant fear of being killed for no reason other than walking while "black". Or just simply existing. Any white could kill without fear of prosecution because blacks were still considered inhuman or animals. Just look at the faces of the crowd in the featured photo below. No remorse or guilt for callously taking another man's life in the most humiliating ways possible.
Things have gotten better in the 21st century (despite what you see on TV) but the stigma remains. Once the generation of the 20th century finally passes on, so will America's penchant for holding on to outdated prejudices.
By Rich McKay
ATLANTA, Feb 10 (Reuters) - Lynchings in which mobs raided jailhouses to hang, torture and burn alive black men, sometimes leading to public executions in courthouse squares, occurred more often in the U.S. South than was previously known, according to a report released on Tuesday.
The slightest transgression could spur violence, the Equal Justice Initiative found, as it documented 3,959 victims of lynching in a dozen Southern states.
The group said it found 700 more lynchings of black people in the region than had been previously reported. The research took five years and covered 1877 to 1950, the period from the end of post-Civil War Reconstruction to the years immediately following World War Two.
The report cited a 1940 incident in which Jesse Thornton was lynched in Alabama for not saying "Mister" as he talked to a white police officer.
In 1916, men lynched Jeff Brown for accidentally bumping into a white girl as he ran to catch a train, the report said.
Bryan Stevenson, founder and director of the Montgomery, Alabama-based EJI, said that while current events did not directly equate with lynching, "what happened then has its echoes in today's headlines."
He cited racial differences in reactions to last year's shooting death of an unarmed black teenager in Ferguson, Missouri, by a white police officer.
The group said the report was aimed at spurring Americans to face the lasting impact of their history. It also would like to see historical markers placed across the South to note sites where lynchings occurred.
Calling the violence racial terror designed to subjugate black people through fear, Stevenson and his associates sought to catalog every lynching in 12 states: Alabama, Arkansas, Florida, Georgia, Kentucky, Louisiana, Mississippi, North Carolina, South Carolina, Tennessee, Texas and Virginia.
"The South is littered with monuments for the Civil War," Stevenson said. "But we haven't looked at the great evil of slavery. Its aftermath morphed into terrorism of lynching."
"We as Americans haven't dealt with our full history," he added.
Sociology professor E.M. Beck of the University of Georgia agreed that past lynchings had affected perceptions of justice.
"Many white people look on the police as their protectors, defenders of their rights, and blacks can look at the same officers as part of a system sent to control and contain them," he said. (Editing by Letitia Stein and Peter Cooney)
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Things have gotten better in the 21st century (despite what you see on TV) but the stigma remains. Once the generation of the 20th century finally passes on, so will America's penchant for holding on to outdated prejudices.
The History Of Lynching In America Is Worse Than You Think, Says Study
By Rich McKay
ATLANTA, Feb 10 (Reuters) - Lynchings in which mobs raided jailhouses to hang, torture and burn alive black men, sometimes leading to public executions in courthouse squares, occurred more often in the U.S. South than was previously known, according to a report released on Tuesday.
The slightest transgression could spur violence, the Equal Justice Initiative found, as it documented 3,959 victims of lynching in a dozen Southern states.
The group said it found 700 more lynchings of black people in the region than had been previously reported. The research took five years and covered 1877 to 1950, the period from the end of post-Civil War Reconstruction to the years immediately following World War Two.
The report cited a 1940 incident in which Jesse Thornton was lynched in Alabama for not saying "Mister" as he talked to a white police officer.
In 1916, men lynched Jeff Brown for accidentally bumping into a white girl as he ran to catch a train, the report said.
Bryan Stevenson, founder and director of the Montgomery, Alabama-based EJI, said that while current events did not directly equate with lynching, "what happened then has its echoes in today's headlines."
He cited racial differences in reactions to last year's shooting death of an unarmed black teenager in Ferguson, Missouri, by a white police officer.
The group said the report was aimed at spurring Americans to face the lasting impact of their history. It also would like to see historical markers placed across the South to note sites where lynchings occurred.
Calling the violence racial terror designed to subjugate black people through fear, Stevenson and his associates sought to catalog every lynching in 12 states: Alabama, Arkansas, Florida, Georgia, Kentucky, Louisiana, Mississippi, North Carolina, South Carolina, Tennessee, Texas and Virginia.
"The South is littered with monuments for the Civil War," Stevenson said. "But we haven't looked at the great evil of slavery. Its aftermath morphed into terrorism of lynching."
"We as Americans haven't dealt with our full history," he added.
Sociology professor E.M. Beck of the University of Georgia agreed that past lynchings had affected perceptions of justice.
"Many white people look on the police as their protectors, defenders of their rights, and blacks can look at the same officers as part of a system sent to control and contain them," he said. (Editing by Letitia Stein and Peter Cooney)
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Thursday, January 15, 2015
Yellow Brick Road
In one of the greatest movies of all time (in my opinion), The Wizard of Oz, the group of misfits were told to follow a "yellow brick road" in order to find and meet a "wizard" who could help them find their hearts desire (i.e. heart, courage, brain and getting HOME). The YBR always held a unique fascination for me. Most would liken the road as one paved with gold. A striking whimsical color that really defined their journey.
As long as the heroes stayed the course, they would end up in the "emerald city". I have used this analogy when teaching subs how to overcome adversity and obstacles. The Yellow Brick Road does not have to be a physical place. It is a mental compass that can guide you through any distraction or calamity that may threaten to derail your own personal journey.
That Yellow Brick Road is elusive.
One cannot know the path they should take until they are placed upon it. Just like Glenda did for Dorothy, a Master/Mentor can do for a submissive. However, the major difference between the movie and real life is that the only wicked witch that you would come across would likely be your own insecurities and baggage.
So how does one find their Yellow Brick Road?
Before you answer that question, ponder a more important one... do you even want to?
As long as the heroes stayed the course, they would end up in the "emerald city". I have used this analogy when teaching subs how to overcome adversity and obstacles. The Yellow Brick Road does not have to be a physical place. It is a mental compass that can guide you through any distraction or calamity that may threaten to derail your own personal journey.
That Yellow Brick Road is elusive.
One cannot know the path they should take until they are placed upon it. Just like Glenda did for Dorothy, a Master/Mentor can do for a submissive. However, the major difference between the movie and real life is that the only wicked witch that you would come across would likely be your own insecurities and baggage.
So how does one find their Yellow Brick Road?
Before you answer that question, ponder a more important one... do you even want to?
Saturday, January 10, 2015
Pretend
When you think of the word, what definition stands out the most?
Make believe?
Fiction?
Fantasy?
Role play?
We all play a role. No matter who you are or how in control you think you are. As they say... Life is a just a scene without rehearsal. Each day is a new chapter and is just as unpredictable as the last.
Can you say with complete certainty that you are 100% yourself, 100% of the time?
If you can say yes then you must be the happiest person on Earth because being yourself and feeling comfortable with who you are is difficult in this society.
As children, we would sometimes pretend to be someone we admired or hoped we'd become ourselves. It was fun and you felt alive and happy doing it because it felt real. In the back of your mind, you set yourself on a path to making it a reality when you grew up.
As adults, we are still pretending. It just goes by different names.
The American Dream.
The Standard of Living... house, wife, kids, family vacations, retire.
Some are comfortable pretending. It has become safe. Their end game. Mission accomplished.
Others struggle to continue pretending. Fighting anything that doesn't fit the picture they have painted in their minds. The Standard of Living everyone around them expects them to follow.
But if something truly isn't working and not making you happy...
Isn't it time to stop pretending?
I challenge all of you to shake up your reality in 2015. Take the impossible or the "fantasy" of getting something you have wanted for a long time and make a real effort to get it. It's not about whether you succeed... it's about pretending you already have.
Black Sovereign
Make believe?
Fiction?
Fantasy?
Role play?
We all play a role. No matter who you are or how in control you think you are. As they say... Life is a just a scene without rehearsal. Each day is a new chapter and is just as unpredictable as the last.
Can you say with complete certainty that you are 100% yourself, 100% of the time?
If you can say yes then you must be the happiest person on Earth because being yourself and feeling comfortable with who you are is difficult in this society.
As children, we would sometimes pretend to be someone we admired or hoped we'd become ourselves. It was fun and you felt alive and happy doing it because it felt real. In the back of your mind, you set yourself on a path to making it a reality when you grew up.
As adults, we are still pretending. It just goes by different names.
The American Dream.
The Standard of Living... house, wife, kids, family vacations, retire.
Some are comfortable pretending. It has become safe. Their end game. Mission accomplished.
Others struggle to continue pretending. Fighting anything that doesn't fit the picture they have painted in their minds. The Standard of Living everyone around them expects them to follow.
But if something truly isn't working and not making you happy...
Isn't it time to stop pretending?
I challenge all of you to shake up your reality in 2015. Take the impossible or the "fantasy" of getting something you have wanted for a long time and make a real effort to get it. It's not about whether you succeed... it's about pretending you already have.
Black Sovereign
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